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The difference between carefully considering your options and overthinking


๐™’๐™๐™–๐™ฉ ๐™™๐™ค๐™š๐™จ "๐™ค๐™ซ๐™š๐™ง๐™ฉ๐™๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™ ๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™œ" ๐™ข๐™š๐™–๐™ฃ?


Overthinking means ruminating over something endlessly, looking at it from every possible angle, analyzing it to death, second guessing every possible action you can take, causing yourself ever increasing anxiety and stress and, in the end, achieving nothing.


The core issue behind overthinking is the fear that the decision you make will have negative outcomes.


๐™Ž๐™ž๐™œ๐™ฃ๐™จ ๐™ค๐™› ๐™ค๐™ซ๐™š๐™ง๐™ฉ๐™๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™ ๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™œ:


  • inability to make a decision โ€“ always thinking of yet another option

  • constantly asking yourself โ€œwhat ifโ€ questions and catastrophizing the possible outcomes

  • always worrying about things you have no control over

  • difficulty sleeping because you canโ€™t turn off your thoughts


๐™Š๐™ซ๐™š๐™ง๐™ฉ๐™๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™ ๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™œ ๐™ž๐™จ ๐™ฉ๐™๐™š ๐™ค๐™ฅ๐™ฅ๐™ค๐™จ๐™ž๐™ฉ๐™š ๐™ค๐™› ๐™˜๐™ง๐™ž๐™ฉ๐™ž๐™˜๐™–๐™ก ๐™ฉ๐™๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™ ๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™œ


Rational consideration of all relevant information before making a decision is critical thinking and for the most part it leads to the best decision under the circumstances.


Overthinking, on the other hand, is the opposite of critical thinking and it leads to paralysis and inaction.


๐™Š๐™ซ๐™š๐™ง๐™ฉ๐™๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™ ๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™œ ๐™ž๐™จ ๐™ฉ๐™๐™š ๐™ง๐™š๐™จ๐™ช๐™ก๐™ฉ ๐™ค๐™› ๐™– ๐™ก๐™–๐™˜๐™  ๐™ค๐™› ๐™จ๐™š๐™ก๐™›-๐™˜๐™ค๐™ฃ๐™›๐™ž๐™™๐™š๐™ฃ๐™˜๐™š


At the root of overthinking is a lack of confidence, a lack of trust in your skills, knowledge and abilities to take care of yourself, to make โ€œthe rightโ€ decision, even in situations where there is no such thing as โ€œthe rightโ€ decision


If lack of confidence leads to overthinking, then building self-confidence is the antidote. Confidence is the belief that you have the knowledge, skills and abilities to make sound decisions.


๐™๐™๐™š ๐™ฉ๐™ฌ๐™ค ๐™ฅ๐™ž๐™ก๐™ก๐™–๐™ง๐™จ ๐™ค๐™› ๐™จ๐™š๐™ก๐™›-๐™˜๐™ค๐™ฃ๐™›๐™ž๐™™๐™š๐™ฃ๐™˜๐™š


You can develop self-confidence by following these 2 simple steps:


  • get clear about your purpose

  • get clear about what you are really made of


When you know your purpose, you have a filter that makes decision making easier โ€“ all you have to decide is what you need to do to move closer to your vision.


When you are clear about what you are made of, you have the courage to be vulnerable and try new things, and you know you can handle whatever comes your way.


๐™Š๐™ซ๐™š๐™ง๐™ฉ๐™๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™ ๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™œ ๐™ž๐™จ ๐™– ๐™จ๐™ฉ๐™–๐™ฉ๐™š ๐™ค๐™› ๐™ฅ๐™–๐™ง๐™–๐™ก๐™ฎ๐™จ๐™ž๐™จ ๐™˜๐™–๐™ช๐™จ๐™š๐™™ ๐™—๐™ฎ ๐™– ๐™ก๐™–๐™˜๐™  ๐™ค๐™› ๐™จ๐™š๐™ก๐™›-๐™˜๐™ค๐™ฃ๐™›๐™ž๐™™๐™š๐™ฃ๐™˜๐™š


Overthinking is a state of paralysis in which you constantly second guess yourself, leaving you feeling stuck and anxious.


The best way to get unstuck is to clarify your purpose and what you are really made of, so you always know what your next step is and you have the confidence to take action in service of your purpose.


If you feel stuck in life and are not sure what your next step is, let's chat. I offer complimentary 15 minute consultations. At the end of our conversation you will have clarity around what you really want in life and what your next step is.


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